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In the modern age, a marriage does not always have to be a necessity
I have always looked at women and marriages with the hope that most don’t prioritize a marriage in their life too much. I can comprehend that, unlike me, most little girls have always dreamt of that perfect white wedding – for me, a marriage is always at the bottom-end of my very long priority list. But as great as that fairytale wedding sounds, sometimes you also have to think about reality and how it might not always be possible for every woman in the world to meet ‘the one’. In those instances, refraining from a marriage sounds like the best option – in today’s technologically-advanced world, being a single mother is not a difficulty at all as well, if you are one of those women, who also associate a marriage with the prospect of bearing children.
Why is it necessary to even get married? For love? To preserve social customs? I think women need to look at a marriage less as a necessity and more as a social custom that should be followed if one feels ready for it. A hasty bad marriage can very easily bring your spirits down so it would be wiser to avoid it entirely and focus on another set of equally high priorities: like, having a baby. There is nothing shameful about requesting for help to get over a really bad marriage, and there are so many services at a woman’s disposal these days, from counselling to support groups.
A marriage should definitely be given more thought, for a start. I feel that already around the world, so many children in poor countries would avoid getting married if they were offered the chance to: child marriages are rampant in many countries, such as India, Bangladesh, Brazil, Indonesia, Mexico, Philippines, Egypt, Iran, Nepal and Thailand, as well as Madagascar and Sierra Leone. Even though it is a human rights violation, and laws exist to stave child marriages off, poverty and gender inequality in a society still makes it very difficult to stop the practice.
When young girls get married, their chances of succeeding in life gets significantly slashed because pregnancy happens to them young which healthwise can be risky if it happens in adolescence; reportedly, for young women, there have also been deaths because of pregnancy and childbirth, during their adolescence. Many women these days admittedly have a child out of wedlock, but because of widespread awareness revolving around the subject of contraception, pregnancy for women in their teenage years is not a major occurrence any longer, unlike in the early nineties. For developing countries, however, the picture is drastically different: apart from child marriages happening, there is also worries about how globalisation is impacting selected Asian countries, such as Indonesia, Thailand and Bangladesh because pregnancy for young women, and the health-risks associated with it, is still an important challenge to educate on.